I’m still not sure how to answer this question . . . “I’m a chef, counselor, educator, coach, stylist, accountant, and personal shopper, what do you do?” Or I could give the shorter, more to-the-point answer: “I’m a stay-at-home-mom.”
Statements like this bother me. The statement is an excerpt from a blog about choosing to be a stay-at-home mom. This woman may perform some of those functions, but she is not a stylist in the same sense as someone who is licensed to practice cosmetology. She does not have a CPA; therefore, she is not an accountant. She didn’t go to culinary school—not a chef. She doesn’t have a license to practice counseling…get my point? She is a mother who performs some of those functions, like all mothers do, whether we choose to work or not.
Somehow, this writer believes that stay-at-home moms have gotten a bad rap. Then there’s me on the other side feeling that because I’ve chosen to go to work everyday that I’ve gotten the bad mom rap. ENOUGH!
It doesn’t matter. One of the joys of being a woman and being a mom is that you get to make a choice. Own it. Stop complaining about how you feel shame about your choice. Stop undermining yourself by thinking you need to make what you do somehow sound bigger or more special than what it may seem to you or your perspective of how the world views you. Stop reasoning with yourself or others about why you made that choice. You are a mother. And as one nyself, I say that’s special enough.